Comment by rester324
20 hours ago
Does this person have some kind of mental issue? I am seriosuly asking this, not mocking him. Because by reading through this post it stands out to me that he doesn't mention or highlights empathy. And that's where his problem stems from
At a guess, he does have empathy. He didn't know how to get that empathy across, to the other person, and these are the stages he went through in learning how to do it. You see, the intent and the execution can be completely or partially divorced in some people. I can truly empathize the other person, the beginning of the process is there, but I wouldn't know the right words, tone or gestures hot to proceed with my empathy. And then it is fifty/fifty, maybe a person would decide to ignore my lack of execution and will start deep dialog on their own and then my empathy can allow me to honestly respond and continue it. Or maybe they will decide not to do it and the deep dialog wouldn't happen in the first place.
Not every closed-in and awkward person is lacking empathy.
Probably high functioning autism. They go through a process like this, and is in part why they are high functioning in the first place because they solve their problems with their intellect and train whatever else is necessary.
Though, research shows that autistic people among themselves do have empathy. So it’s not as if they don’t but it’s because they tend to communicate differently. It’s called the double empathy problem, if I recall correctly.
Check out some of the other posts there too. There's a certain grandiosity about the writing that makes it feel like the author isn't actually past their own 'Stage 1'. Coupled with the ingratiating comments on each post, something's definitely setting off 'cult leader' alarms to me.
Precisely. And it's quite concerning that several people think this is a good exemplar to follow.