Comment by PaulKeeble

There is a implicit assumption that many peoples thoughts are insincere before this point and its the only moment where you can really get what people truly value and believe in. I don't think that is true, in many ways you say the thing family/the people around you need to hear. A level of candour has taken over because you don't have to worry about a number of other concerns but at that point you often trying to comfort the people who are going to live with your death.

There is no moment in our lives where we can be trusted to think deeply and express a hard to hear honest thought, and those people that do it often when talking about others are just mean and unlikeable.