Comment by nirui
2 months ago
> Your friends with kids still want to see you.
If you both have kids, then the kids may also want a chance to socialize. Meeting new people with their parent is a great opportunity to expand their social network and learn how they should act in front of friendly people.
Of course, the parent needs to be smart about it to avoid or correctly correct the negative sides, but assuming you're a good parent, a well-socialized kids will grow up differently in many better ways than a completely home-breed one.
There's a reason it takes a village to raised a child. He idea of only a single pair of adults should be responsible for raising an entire human being is one of the most unhinged developments of the modern era.
For our entire history we used to live in tribes. One person can look after 5 children with only a small extra % of the effort it takes to look after one. Hell maybe even less effort because the kids will keep each other company, and the adult only has to make sure the kids don't kill themselves. The older kids will naturally take charge and the younger kids tend to follow their older-brother figures.
It can still be done today. Children-having adults gather, bringing their children along. The children will be happy because friends to play with. Adults will be happy because socialization + taking a break from entertaining child. You can even play DND or something.
It's so obvious, so simple, so rewarding, but we still somehow fucked it up.