Comment by tasuki

2 days ago

How many times did you have terminal cancer?

My girlfriend died of cancer. She was 30 years old and we had a toddler. No matter how rational you start, terminal cancer diagnosis throws much rationality out the window.

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overfeed  2 days ago

> No matter how rational you start, terminal cancer diagnosis throws much rationality out the window.

Doctors who get cancer typically stay level-headed. I wish society talked about death and mortality more often and openly, most people are ill-equiped to face it square on, and yet its the one thing that is truly universal. Humanity needs sex-ed, but for dying.

  • bombcar  2 days ago

    > Humanity needs sex-ed, but for dying.

    I mean, we had that and threw it away; centuries of memento mori in various cultures and religions

  • hulitu  2 days ago

    > I wish society talked about death and mortality more often and openly,

    They do. For example "US army sunk a boat with drug traffickers, killing everyone."

    see Banality of evil https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eichmann_in_Jerusalem

    • overfeed  2 days ago

      Use of passive voice doesn't help anyone grapple with one's mortality. I specifically meant in the context of contemplating our own mortality, and not that of others - which is closer to death porn and not death sex-ed (learning how to do it ourselves)

NoSalt  2 days ago

I agree 100%. If I received a terminal cancer diagnosis, I would be willing to do almost anything to live longer.

  • BrandoElFollito  2 days ago

    I would not. At some point this becomes agony, this is the reason I have a suicide plan in place for a long time alredy, despite being in perfect health.

    It's not when you need it that you start googling around

kstrauser  2 days ago

I am truly sorry for your loss. That must’ve been a nightmare, and I can imagine someone exploring outside their usual lines in such a situation. I hope you and your child are well now.

  • tasuki  2 days ago

    Thank you, yes we are well! Things have only been getting better for several years now :)