Comment by thisislife2
1 day ago
> switching channel from practical problem-solver to emotional problem-solver
Thank you for this useful tip! I've recently become aware that I may not be as good a listener I thought I was - I too make the common mistake of immediately offering solutions, or talking too much about my own relatable situations and feelings, instead of trying to really listen to them and help them figure out their own world view and feelings of a particular situation (and thus understand them better too in the process).
“Don’t just do something, stand there!” - I love this quote. Standing there or being there for someone is amazingly helpful and it’s a skill to do it, congrats on working on this.
Indeed, the more one knows about what it means to be a good listener, the more one becomes aware of not being such a good listener.
Being a good listener is one of the hardest jobs in the world.
And narcissists are soul sucking traps for good listeners.
Which is why you should not be an indiscriminate listener.