Comment by accrual

Thanks for the question. It's a couple days later but:

> how does the fact that it is of their own volition offer you any comfort? I ask genuinely. Is it something along the lines of recognizing the things you can't change?

Yes, pretty much exactly this. It's like living a giant pot full of autonomous beings. Sometimes, others do unexpected or undesirable things. I can't control what they do, but I can control how I respond and what I do about it (if anything), and so I try to focus there.