Comment by tonymet
20 days ago
The narcissism of food restrictions— and in general— has contributed to this. I love to cook, but it’s dreadful to have to assemble everyone’s restrictions into a meal. How can I make a vegan, gluten free, organic, global , etc meal ?
It’s emblematic of the me-first attitude. Instead of deferential guests , grateful to be welcomed over, everyone demands they are catered to on their terms.
I politely asked my neighbor to take her shoes off before entering, and she complained that I should have warned her of my no shoes policy before coming over.
I offer my guests unopened slippers to wear while they are here, too .
> everyone demands they are catered to on their terms.
How much of a thing is this in practice? To me this also feels driven by the expectations of the host towards the guests beeing fully accommodated by them. It's probably a mixture of both.
Like, I'm happy to bring my own food, when invited. E.g. I would presume most vegans would be cool with bringing their own or ordering, as you are used to that anyways.
bringing your own food is an imposition and kills the vibe. If you don't see that, that's part of the cultural gap.
I see that it's currently not culturally accepted, but fundamentally is also a case of entitlement from the hosts part.