Comment by bloomingeek
20 days ago
I've copied all the responses I can for later reading, so I hope I'm not rehashing. I think it's because a lot of people suck. I'm very happy and have little or no family issues. But with politics and the over all attitude of most that it's easier to gripe instead of making things better or just trying to make things better, it's not worth socializing as perhaps it once was. I admit, I've always defaulted to being a loner type, but with all the general anger in society, I'm still good with that.
That is quite an ugly posture and without any bit of substance. What was this meaning to add? I'm genuinely wondering.
Read it again, this time slower. I'm saying that most people are mean spirited and don't care about anyone, besides themselves. Reality is bent to have a meaning, socially, that is meant to distort facts and create narratives that refute logic. And a lot of people want to argue as a result. Just look at what's happening in America these days.
Interpreting facts always involves argument, so that's not evidence of mean spirits. Do you include yourself in 'most people'? If not, why assume you're the exception?
This is quite bleak but relatable. I used to strive to be a 'connector' type and the only thing that kept me going was my optimism and trying to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. That broke around COVID. The sad truth is there's a lot of shitty people :( A better long term strategy is to try to identify and avoid these people as their attitude will chip at you and bring you down.
Much easier to sustain a positive attitude and disposition when you surround yourself by people who are also investing in the friendship / relationship or who are likely to pay it forward with others.
This is essentially what held old world cultures together before the rise of capitalism and it's individualistic attitudes.