Comment by Noaidi

2 hours ago

Why is this complicated? If you can’t remember the trauma, how can you suffer from it?

Now we may have behaviors that were shaped by our trauma, but remembering our trauma, what does that do but reinforce the memory again and there force reinforce our trauma response?

All that has to be done is focus on your present date and your present reaction examine if that’s dysfunctional or not.

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esseph  2 hours ago

>Why is this complicated? If you can’t remember the trauma, how can you suffer from it?

Because trauma affixes neutal pathways. You don't have to remember it to be affected, at all.

  • jack_pp  1 hour ago

    If you find a bug in your code does it matter who is to blame? Is it useful to remember you had a fight with your wife the day you committed it?

    Does a car mechanic need a video of the crash to fix the car?

    • ethbr1  5 minutes ago

      The correct analogy here would be that if you notice your program repeatedly acting incorrectly in the same way, you trace the execution path.

      Past trauma can often be the root.

      Failing to recognize it and reprogram that part of your brain leads to patching over symptoms, which... causes other issues.

      Where this breaks down for some people -- not everyone has trauma, or at least severe enough trauma to need to deal with it.

      Some people act like assholes because they were hurt when they were young. Others act like assholes because that's just how they decided to act.